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Coming to Terms With My Belly

Hawaii here I come!

Lian Cho
Jul 21, 2023
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This started out as a very quick update for the newsletter as a way to procrastinate packing for my trip but it ended up as a very vulnerable post. Whoops! That tends to happen a lot here.

I know that there are millions of people out there with bodies who face far worse scrutiny from society than I do. I am definitely on the slimmer side of bodies but it is wild how much female bodies are examined much harsher than male bodies. Just the patriarchy at it again! Trying to make all of us look like frail underage girls who can’t defend themselves and must rely on a strong strong man to take care and advantage of them.

We’ll see how I do on this trip, I’m definitely going to try my best to be less critical of myself. I’m still really nervous but it does seem really really stupid to ruin having a good time just because I might have a roll when I sit down. Who gives a fuck? I need to stop giving a fuck.

Anyways, I’ll be gone next week so there probably won’t be a newsletter post next week. I’m not sure if I’ll do much drawing there so we’ll see. We’re going to be on Big Island so if any of you have suggestions for things to do while there, let me know!

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend :)

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Diana
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Jul 21

I have always been slim but I love to eat drink and be merry. I gave up on the flat belly idea in my fortys I'm almost 73 now. After giving in to the inevitable I named my belly Virginia. I figured anything that close to you needs a name. Blessings for your Hawaii trip.

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Missskiwi
Aug 19

just read this now and THANK YOU. I gained some weight in the last two years and summer has shifted from my favourite season to i-need-to-hide-my-body season. Thank you for reminding me that it's ok and not to obsess over it. I'm going to buy a bikini now :)

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