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Mary Spaar Putrasahan's avatar

To move is bittersweet but I hope it's a lovely time of discovery! I'm in DC and am jealous that Baltimore gets a bit better of an arts scene than we do-- esp with MICA right there! I hope you enjoy it!

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Sunil Sarwal's avatar

You might want to consider Toronto. It’s very multicultural, so you’ll face less racism. And Canada has free healthcare and no guns. Plus authors are highly respected here (most of our national heroes are either hockey players or writers, seriously).

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Virginia Neely's avatar

Wherever you make your home, Lian, I wish you luck and happiness. And if you find that magical place you described so eloquently, let us know. I'm sure we'd all love to join you there. It's what I dream of, too.

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Ken Karp's avatar

Good luck in your next chapter! I've lived all my life in NYC. I've seen it change, and rarely for the better. There's the feeling that you have to be here or you'll be missing something. That's its charm- the feeling that you're at the center. But the center is wherever you are. All the best!

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Michelle Lin's avatar

Kudos to you for having the courage to make the move! I lived in NYC from 2005-2011 and I had many of those same feelings. I finally ended up leaving when my husband got a job in Montreal (which was so much calmer and affordable than NYC, but still had a lot going for it culture wise). Enjoy the adventure!

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Ann Stott's avatar

What a beautiful good-bye. Wishing you all the best on your journey.

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Carmen's avatar

When you're done travelling, come to the UK. We'd love to have you x

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Lgm's avatar

I look forward to reading your new adventures. Congrats on your move!

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The Sketchy Anthropologist's avatar

This letter resonates so much with me and the place that I called home for so long! I think one always keeps a soft spot for NY but I’ve learned to take it as a to-go soft spot 🌃

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Kathy's avatar

Awww good luck moving and finding the new (and right-ish) place for you and Adam! Hoping this season of Baltimore and Taiwan renews both of you 🥺🥰

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Eden Avery's avatar

❤️ this resonates so much. Best of luck with the travel and soul searching - I know it will be amazing!

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Zoe Siegel's avatar

Thanks for sharing - I love this.

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Alyssa Bermudez's avatar

I can definitely relate to this love hate relationship in New York City. I feel space to breathe now that I’ve been out of it for 10 years. I miss its character though. Good luck with whatever/wherever happens next!

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Debora Nogueira's avatar

It seems you're pretty comfortable with your decision and that's the most important thing when we're changing: to feel good about ourselves and to be capable of envisioning a nicer future. Good luck!

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Travis Nichols's avatar

I left New York for San Francisco… and came back after seven years. Careful! You’ll think you finally got her claws outta ya, but they might still be lodged deeeep down.

HELP.

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Sarah Doan's avatar

This hit home for me!

Godspeed and I know you'll find your new place to call home! (ㅅ´ ˘ `)

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